Softball Family Explains How to Avoid Recruiting Frustrations
September 13th, 2010 - byEvery parent should listen to what Jim Dunfee and his daughter Alex have to say about recruiting. Just because your child is very good at their sport, it does NOT mean college coaches will find them. Families have to be proactive in recruiting. Just ask the Dunfee family.
Jim’s daughter Alex was an All State catcher at one of the powerhouse programs in the state of Indiana, Penn High. She
had the tools to be a legitimate Division One player, but because they did not understand recruiting, her dream of playing at that level never came true. To this day, her father still shakes his head about what happened.
“We took so many left turns in the recruiting process when we should have gone right,” he says now. “We didn’t know of NCSA back then. We didn’t know about guidance in the recruiting process.”
Jim, of Weichert Realtors and Jim Dunfee and Associates in the South Bend, IN area. Jim and his wife Mary watched as their daughter Alex shined as an athlete in Middle School. She stood apart from the rest. She reached varsity starting catcher status as a sophomore at Penn. She would go on to earn All Conference honors three times, All State honors twice, and she was an Indiana All Star. In one season she had 34 RBI in 30 games. Alex set numerous school records. She was also a very good basketball player. She worked countless hours to become as good as she could be athletically. Academically, she carried a 3.8 GPA. She had everything but the knowledge of how to get connected with college coaches. In my Talks I always tell audiences this whole thing is like a tripod. You have to have the athletic ability, the academics, and you must know how to play the recruiting game!
This is a young lady that should have played at the mid Division One level. The Dunfee’s were very realistic in what level she could play college. They weren’t overshooting for places like UCLA or Tennessee. They knew the mid D1 level was just right – schools like Central Michigan, Akron or Miami of Ohio. The problem was that those programs didn’t know her.
“We were too passive early,” Jim said. “We thought things would fall into place. If I had another stud athlete I would know it’s more about packaging and promoting. She would have had offers from schools in the Mid American Conference. But we waited until the end of the junior year and every program we talked to said ‘we have already made our offers to the catchers.’ No one had room! Now I tell Dads that these college programs start early. They start watching at the 8th grade level!”
“I have lived in the South Bend area all my life,” Jim added. “My perception about Notre Dame Football was that college coaches will see your clippings. We thought that’s how recruiting worked in all sports. Our daughter was good, so we assumed she would get chased and we would end up choosing the college. What we learned is you have to manufacture their desire.”
Alex played Travel Softball and traveled to events in such locations as Florida, Colorado and St. Louis. “She hit a home run right in front of the stands filled with college coaches,” said Jim. “Eastern Illinois acted interested after the game but we never heard from them. What we learned is that the college coaches were at these showcases and club tournaments with lists of players they were actively recruiting. They wanted to be seen by those players they were courting. They were not looking to discover talent. At that time, we didn’t know you needed to have the means to get on their lists, and you didn’t feel right in telling them about your player at the Travel events. They came across in an elitist way where they did not want to be bothered. They had their list of players.”
“We got to the end of Alex’s junior year at Penn and no offers were coming our way. In a panic mode, we started visiting schools like Central Michigan. Their coaches said if they had known of her she would have been their catcher, but they had already made their offers for the class of ’08. Their scholarship money had been doled out. The other schools we started writing said that their catcher needs were filled.”
In a late scramble, they connected with the University of Southern Indiana, a Division Two program. They were surprised that Alex had not connected with a D1 program.
“What was frustrating,” Jim said, “was watching her play in games for Southern Indiana when they played against D1 programs. They had catchers that were not as talented as her. That’s when it hit me that it’s not always about talent but how you structure recruiting. What you have to do is start freshmen year with the way to contacting college coaches, develop a rapport, and stay on their radar by updating your schedule and accomplishments. You have to start early and stay in touch.”
After her sophomore year at USI Alex quit playing softball and transferred to Purdue, where she is focusing on being a student. I got word to Alex that I wanted to hear her insights on recruiting. After one of her classes at Purdue, she contacted me. She had taken the time to write down some notes of points she wanted to emphasize. She had some valuable observations for families out there:
“Charlie, I started too late. When you are 14 or 15 you have to start the process as far as being recruited. It got on it between my junior and senior years at Penn High. College coaches emailed me back and said their slots at catcher were filled.”
“I was very successful in High School. I thought my stats and reputation would get me noticed, but they didn’t. Looking back, I really liked playing High School softball more than Travel because I felt there was more camaraderie in High School. In Travel, it was more show up and play. But, what I learned is that Travel is more important when it comes to College exposure. However, you have to have a way to communicate with the College coaches so they know who you are in Travel ball. You need to contact College coaches and send them to links. A lot of the College Softball coaches want you to go to their Winter camps. I would suggest you establish a relationship with that College coach before going so they know your face. Otherwise there might be 100 players there and you don’t really stand out. I can’t speak for all the other sports, but Softball is one where you have to do a lot of work in recruiting. As you develop relationships, have a way to send them your schedule. Also, College coaches don’t want to hear from parents. They want to hear from you. As far as Travel ball, to me it was a lot of politics. College coaches followed the teams that had success in the past. That’s why you have to email them to know where to find you. Otherwise, you hope you get lucky and they catch you out of the corner of their eye as they go by to watch those teams they always follow.”
“Another thing I learned too late was how important video is in recruiting. In softball you need a Skills video.”
“Softball recruiting is changing so fast. My coaches at Southern Indiana were getting emails from good 14 year olds. Her roster is set for the next two years.”
“I got started too late. In the summer between my junior and senior year I got discouraged and started to settle on going on to be a regular student in College, but I knew I would have regrets later in life if I had not tried to play College softball. Two of my JV coaches had played at the University of Southern Indiana, so they got me connected there. Because I got started with recruiting so late, all I got was $600 for books. All of the other money had been slotted.”
“Another thing I would say is don’t be humble when it comes to recruiting. By nature, I am a humble person. I don’t like to talk about myself, but that hurt me. You have to let them know your accomplishments. Ask your High School and Travel coaches to call College coaches. They should want to help that way.”
“I believe it is really important athletes pick a College for the school first and then the sport. Because I got started late I was only able to connect with Southern Indiana. I went there strictly for softball. Although I met a lot of really good people there, that school was not a fit for me. I wasn’t happy. I transferred after two years and am now at Purdue as a regular student.”
“Through all of this I went from someone who loved Softball so much to a point where the love of the game just wasn’t the same. Now, I want to focus on being a person. Sports were everything to me growing up, and I didn’t develop in other areas like I wanted to.”
Alex is doing very well as a student at Purdue. Thank you, Alex, for such important observations.
Today, Jim Dunfee still shakes his head at the recruiting process. He wants other families to know that you have to understand the recruiting game and that you have to work it.
“I have told other parents and athletes at Penn and other schools that you can’t think that just because you are at a big school and you are ranked 4th in the state that coaches will come after you. Ashlee Zappia at South Bend St. Joseph’s is a player that was a year behind Alex. Her mother turned into a PR machine. Sure enough, she got to Miami of Ohio.”
My thanks to Jim Dunfee and his daughter Alex for sharing these hard hitting observations. Recruiting is a once-in-a-lifetime experience. You get one shot. If Jim had it to do over again, they would have worked the recruiting much harder.
Alex Dunfee was on the Indiana All Star team. She was All State, All Conference and one of the best athletes in school history. Her academics were outstanding. If a student-athlete of her stature went under the recruiting radar, what does that say about athletes with fewer accomplishments?
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Charlie Adams
Recruiting Expert, NCSA Athletic Recruiting Network
cadams@ncsasports.org

